You have sent two messages, and neither has been answered. It is easy to read silence as rejection, but withdrawal can have many meanings, including feeling overwhelmed or unsure how to explain what is wrong. You do not need to solve the cause before offering a respectful opening.
Make the first step small
Try a clear, low-pressure message: “I’ve noticed we haven’t talked much lately. No need to explain everything, but I’m here if you want company.” Naming one specific observation is usually easier to receive than a string of questions or a demand to feel better. Offer a practical option, such as a short walk or a quiet meal, and let the person choose.
If they do respond, listen before advising. You might ask, “Would it help if I listened, or would you like to think through next steps together?” This gives the person some control and helps you avoid guessing what support they want.
Stay present without taking over
A person may not be ready to talk, and one unanswered message does not tell you the full story. Follow up gently at a time you can genuinely make, and be honest about what you can offer. You can care about someone without becoming their only source of support.
If the person describes immediate danger or says they cannot keep themselves safe, take it seriously and seek urgent help rather than promising secrecy. In Hong Kong, call 999 for emergency assistance or go to an accident and emergency department. For less immediate concerns, encourage a conversation with a healthcare professional; the useful next step is support, not a quick label.